Boundaries are healthy.
When we set healthy boundaries our hearts begin to fill with gratitude because we feel safe, respected, courageous and empowered. Boundaries not only teach others how we expect to be treated, but setting boundaries teaches us much about ourselves.
Boundaries are really about loving and respecting ourselves, letting others know that we are firm in our beliefs, secure about our tolerances and expectations and have a sense of autonomy. Setting boundaries can help make us feel more stable, fulfilled and grounded and show others that we are healthy minded. Setting boundaries is also healthy for us if we have addictions (eat too much, shop too much, drink too much, eat too much chocolate, etc.). What things are you willing to tolerate? What things are you willing to overlook? What things make you angry? What areas of life do you need to set your own personal boundaries? Do you have addictions? What boundaries do you need to set to help break your addictions?
You can set spiritual, emotional, physical, financial or relational boundaries.
Here are some examples:
1. Give me space.
2. I cannot solve your problems, please do not use me as a dumping ground.
3. I expect to have one-on-one time with you each week.
4. Please respect my spiritual beliefs.
5. Please call before you come over.
6. Do not use profanity in my presence.
7. I will not tolerate drinking in my home.
8. Do not raise your voice or point your finger at me.
9. I will only eat until I am full.
10. I will not eat sweets through the week.
Make a list of some boundaries that you would like to implement in your life:
“But blessed is the one who trusts in the Lord, whose confidence is in him.”